Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Hate is Horror

"Hate is too great a burden to bear.  It injures the hater more than the hated."  -Coretta Scott King

Hatred is a DIFFICULT feeling.  It's difficult because it is such a strong feeling.  Many times people behave irrationally when they feel hate.  Hate is toxic if you give into it or behave irrationally.  Hate destroys one's own happiness and love of life.  Hate makes one focus on the negative aspects of situations or life in general.

"You cannot hate other people without hating yourself."  -Oprah Winfrey

Hate is a choice.  BOTTOM LINE.  This choice is made when someone feels powerless or weak.  Hate gives us that feeling of power we so desperately want, but only temporarily.  It's like a drug and if you keep giving into it, it will have power over you and you will be powerless once again.  If you choose to hate, the only one you end up hurting is yourself and not those you hate.  The hated person probably knows nothing about the hater's feelings or they do not let it bother them so the very thing people hope to accomplish by hating someone doesn't affect the hated person in the least. 

"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."  -Martin Luther King, Jr.

Hate brings people to do horrible things to each other when expressed irrationally.  Hate destroys relationships.  Sometimes it even destroys the relationships you wish to keep.  Hate just creates more hate.

"Hating people is like burning down your own house to get rid of a rat."  -Henry Emerson Fosdick

Hatred stems from feelings of fear, hurt, irresponsibility, and ignorance.  A hater tends to focus on other people's actions making their life miserable.  They are oblivious to the fact that their beliefs and actions create their reality.  The reality is that they work so much harder to hate than to love, and hate only hurts the hater.  Why waste all that energy on something so negative?

"Hatred is a quality that's always destructive, never helpful or constructive, and always unpleasant."  -unknown

Please first and foremost, learn to love yourself.  If you can't love yourself, you can't love others and the hate will continue to dominate your life.  Take time to reflect and see the uselessness of letting negative feelings control how you behave toward others.  Life is too short to let hate fill so much of it. 

“I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.”  -James Baldwin